Rules actually help people. They define what does and does not work within a closed system. This allows people to know, beforehand, whether something is doable or permissible based on prior knowledge or understanding. They will either attempt it or not, depending on the rules, and their personal drive.
But when something is important, and the rules are there, but said rules are vague and generally only under subjective scrutiny, it tears down the player.
Resumes, for instance.
In the US, it is understood that most professions require a resume. But past that, there are no rules, this is the only rule.
Obviously, my personal experiences are what are driving this specific blog; my resume has looked like utter shit for years, because I have had a weird life that is pretty atypical for a 31 year old white male. I won’t go into it now.
A resume may appear to be amazing, and, from many viewpoints, may follow specific rules. But you may still be passed up. And not necessarily for someone better. The reason? Maybe the person on the other end simply liked the other resume for another reason.
I actually live by rules, despite whether this sounds like horse shit from those who know me. I actually like rules, because, once they are understood and I can sufficiently perform necessary tasks based on those rules, I can then creatively spend my time doing other things.
When I was younger, I would make up rules for games like chess or checkers: variant rules. When I played other people with these variant rules (which I would always provide them, prior to play), they would at times accuse me of cheating. I knew what the rules were because I made them up, and I remembered them. They usually rescinded their accusations once I assured them that we had agreed to them prior to the game.
I would even create my own scenarios with dominoes, using them as walls for floor plans, and deploy my Muscle Men figures against my Army Men figures. I created my own rules, but still maintained other rules that made sense: you can’t see/shoot through walls, fists needed to be up close and personal, whereas guns could be used at a distance.
I’ve yet to employ such a concept in real life, I think because the rules that are set in place are not often passed along. Competition, as healthy as it is, can ruin the entire process. When someone else feels threatened by others, or knows that few options are available, they’ll want to get a leg up, so they either lie about, skew, or omit rules for their own favor.
I’m not trying to be paranoid, I know there are plenty of people out there who want to help. But, in the world of trying to succeed and do your best, other people should stay the fuck out of your way.
Let’s allow the rules to be known by everyone, so that we can all play, and we can all determine which set of rules actually helps us to know where we stand. If you feel threatened by someone due to superior knowledge, intellect or skill, get the fuck out of their way so that they can use their mighty brain power to make this world a better place.
Maybe that won’t happen. Maybe I’ll just have to follow the rules I understand, and then create my own variant rules as I go along. Some might call me a cheater, and it might be hard to argue, since they wouldn’t fucking agree with me in the first place.